got yelled at by parents for buying car parts

[daltonduree]

so today i got a call from my father who isnt much of a car guy. he started yelling at me about how the garage is always a shithole and he can never find his tools (i always put them away well. where i got them lol) saying my car is a piece of shit and bla bla bla. this all started by him finding a box that i got by ordering a radiator. a simple radiator...and lifter..injectors... polylocks....parts. he knows im building a new engine with my money and im still paying for my school but i get yelled at. mods if there is a better place for this please move it. anyways anyone else deal with this?

 

[Tommy92]

Looks like you need to save that money and buy a new dad

 

[Orange 94]

Their roof, their rules.

Are you in highschool or post secondary? Are they paying for any of your education?
If they are helping pay for your education, I'd be mad too if you were spending money on car parts.



If your dad is upset about tools being out of place (even though you put them back where you find them like you claim), why dont you help organize them for him. Cleaning out the shop is the least you could do for borrowing his tools.

 

[Tommy92]

Their roof, their rules.

Are you in highschool or post secondary? Are they paying for any of your education?
If they are helping pay for your education, I'd be mad too if you were spending money on car parts.



If your dad is upset about tools being out of place (even though you put them back where you find them like you claim), why dont you help organize them for him. Cleaning out the shop is the least you could do for borrowing his tools.

I think he said that he's paying for his build and school. And he said he puts his tools back where he got them.

 

[Ferocious]

My parents have learned to respect my passion for cars. However, I do treat their garage like if it were my own. If my car leaks fluid, I will spend the extra hour cleaning it up.
You get what you give.

Try not to leave parts and boxes everywhere and your dad will probably stop noticing.

 

[Orange 94]

I think he said that he's paying for his build and school. And he said he puts his tools back where he got them.

He didn't say if his parents were helping him at all with money.
And just because he put a tool back where he got it from doesn't mean its the right spot.

 

[Tommy92]

He didn't say if his parents were helping him at all with money.
And just because he put a tool back where he got it from doesn't mean its the right spot.

True

 

[Shifty Powers]

Ima move to lounge

 

[daltonduree]

yeah im paying for my own school. my own build and i have tried to organize the garage before... that doesnt work out he gets even mader. i live in an apartment and come home on the weekends from college. and if i ship parts here i have to deal with the management claiming its their stuff.

 

[DeepList]

Parents just don't understand...

 

[punched281]

Yup, sounds like my situation. I don't even work on my car at my house. I have a buddy who grew up racing and it is at his shop. It got bad for a while, and he just did not understand it was my thing. My hobby. So now he just doesn't even ask. I don't really tell him much about it and he will ask every once in a while if it is going okay. I get the lecture that I need to start saving money for bigger things. Which I understand cause I want to start looking at land and maybe a small house. Mainly land and a garage and I will build living area in the corner of it haha.

The funny part is that my dad and a 79 tans am with the big block in it. Told me stories of it, he also surprised me with renting a mustang when we traveled to california for a hockey tourni. Been hooked ever since. So it is actually his fault I am hooked on it haha.

 

[daltonduree]

Yup, sounds like my situation. I don't even work on my car at my house. I have a buddy who grew up racing and it is at his shop. It got bad for a while, and he just did not understand it was my thing. My hobby. So now he just doesn't even ask. I don't really tell him much about it and he will ask every once in a while if it is going okay. I get the lecture that I need to start saving money for bigger things. Which I understand cause I want to start looking at land and maybe a small house. Mainly land and a garage and I will build living area in the corner of it haha.

The funny part is that my dad and a 79 tans am with the big block in it. Told me stories of it, he also surprised me with renting a mustang when we traveled to california for a hockey tourni. Been hooked ever since. So it is actually his fault I am hooked on it haha.

the funny part is when i work on my car in the summer i use our 68 stang as a parts runner. way faster than mine. he was fine with me building that one but not with my daily driver lol

 

[punched281]

"if it aint broke, don't fix it!" haha

slow=broken...

 

[daltonduree]

"if it aint broke, don't fix it!" haha

slow=broken...

slow equals very broken. this weekend im going to tinker with the quarterhorse hehe. and maybe find a better hiding place for my parts haha.

 

[punched281]

Definitely haha. That is what I did. All my stuff is at a buddies.

 

[daltonduree]

i should do that. g0t a buddy who is resoring his 68 stang right now. i welded in his floor pans and stuff. helped him tear it to pieces. now waiting on paint then assemble in a weekend lol

 

[KillNThrill24]

Boy... I'll trade you problems. You take mine and I'll take yours. GLADLY....

But on the topic... I never got yelled at for buying shit for my car unless I owed them money for previous parts for my car.. Which I still owe them $2k but that's the least of my concerns in life man

 

[Saint]

That sucks man. Your dad should at least be proud you are taking care of what you have. Really strange he's not proud of that whether the damn tools were in the right place or not. If my kid works on his car (when I have one) I'd be damn proud he was willing to take care of what he had. Maybe you should talk to him about that. "Hey dad I'm just taking care of what I have to continue to be able to make it from point A to point B". "I'm not looking to have a new car dad I can't afford it and you do enough for me already".

Try talking to him if he doesn't get it, then move out and ignore him for awhile. I didn't talk to my mom for a very long time because she didn't agree with what I was doing. Now I've completed College and have a great career in the IT industry. Sometimes parents don't understand because "that isn't how they grew up" but they have to understand that YOU are not THEM.

My dad wasn't into working on cars luckily he was willing to learn from me. Before I was 18 I alone spent 5,000 on my car. He understood I was just taking care of the only car I had.

Here's some more mushy stuff....My dad was devastated when I told him I didn't want to serve 20 years in the military as he did. That I wanted to make my own path. 4 years later I have made my own path and he happy.

 

[daltonduree]

That sucks man. Your dad should at least be proud you are taking care of what you have. Really strange he's not proud of that whether the damn tools were in the right place or not. If my kid works on his car (when I have one) I'd be damn proud he was willing to take care of what he had. Maybe you should talk to him about that. "Hey dad I'm just taking care of what I have to continue to be able to make it from point A to point B". "I'm not looking to have a new car dad I can't afford it and you do enough for me already".

Try talking to him if he doesn't get it, then move out and ignore him for awhile. I didn't talk to my mom for a very long time because she didn't agree with what I was doing. Now I've completed College and have a great career in the IT industry. Sometimes parents don't understand because "that isn't how they grew up" but they have to understand that YOU are not THEM.

My dad wasn't into working on cars luckily he was willing to learn from me. Before I was 18 I alone spent 5,000 on my car. He understood I was just taking care of the only car I had.

i already moved out. i come home on the weekend to see friends and family. aside from the garage we get along quite well. he just doesnt get it like you said.

 

[Saint]

i already moved out. i come home on the weekend to see friends and family. aside from the garage we get along quite well. he just doesnt get it like you said.

Word... It'll work out dude. Just takes time.