I figured out MY problem
had nothing to do with the tranny, not a drop of tranny fluid under my car. it was oil! my dip stick tube was not inserted into the block all the way. I first noticed that there was no oil on the passenger side under the car, just on the drivers side, then i noticed it was all over the lower bell houseing plate thing (forgot what its called) so then i saw the stupid dip stick tube sticking out about 1/2". It was kinda a PITA to get it in there, but i did and its good now
i hate the dipsticks on our cars